Losing a loved one is tough, we’re here to listen
Bereavement is something we know will happen to all of us in some form, at some time. Yet, no one can really prepare for it. Death might be universal, but grief is completely unique. Everyone reacts differently and there is no right way to grieve – there is just what you feel.
The grieving process is a natural response to losing someone and there are many challenges to coping with bereavement no matter when the loss occurred. Our charity, The Counselling Foundation is now welcoming people from across Hertfordshire into our adult bereavement support who have experienced the passing of a relative, friend or colleague and would like someone to talk to.
Bereavement counselling matters – because it’s about you. Counselling can help you find a way through, be it in the immediate aftermath of a death, or many years later, your counsellor is there for you.
We are able to provide specialist bereavement support for anyone over the age of 18. Counselling provides a safe and completely confidential space for you to talk about your feelings of loss and grief and to be honest, sad, angry, scared or to just not know.
If you would like to confidentially talk to one of our friendly administrators to book in an appointment, then please contact us 01727 868585.
Assessments and counselling sessions are self-funded. However the bereavement service is part of our charitable work and the Foundation has secured grants to subsidise up to 30 sessions for bereaved clients of any age who cannot pay the minimum fee of £25 per session.
Additional funding support is available for those over 60 years.
Common reactions to grief that adults may experience
We’re here to listen and help you to learn how to manage the many feelings that may arise whilst you are grieving. Common reactions to grief in adults may experience include:
• Depression, sadness, sorrow, despair
• Relief – that suffering has ended / that role of carer has ended
• Low self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy, failure, incompetence, worthlessness
• Fatigue – apathy, poor concentration
• Changes to patterns of life – e.g. sleeping, eating, libidobedsss
• Avoiding or seeking situations that may trigger grief
• Yearning/pining for deceased, pre-occupation, hallucinations, idealisation
• Hopelessness – loss of purpose, loss of hope for the future
• Anxiety – difficulty making decisions, fear re own health, fear re future
• Relationship difficulties – feeling misunderstood and unsupported
• Feeling lonely
• Managing different grief reactions with family and social network
• Loss of appetite, weight change
• Physical complaints – tension, muscular pains, indigestion, shortness of breath, lump in throat, palpitations, panic attacks
• Increased use of antidepressants and other medicines, alcohol, tobacco
How bereavement counselling has helped those who have experienced loss:
“If not for the bereavement counselling, I would have been completely overwhelmed. It cannot take away all my problems but it just allows me to look at them objectively and cope better.”
“At the start, I would cry all the way home in the car, now I can smile and think about good times. I was struggling to see how I could carry on. Now I can at least focus.”
“My counsellor is kind, caring and welcoming, soon putting me at my ease. We’ve talked through numerous issues, some deeply sad and distressing, others we’ve laughter together. She is indeed a breath of fresh air! Her gentle questioning and teasing further information from me gave her an insight into the problems I was indeed facing, all done with quietness, thoughtfulness and care.”